Friday, September 15, 2006

Things People Say

Things People Said When We Announced We Were Expecting:

  • "Better you than me."
  • "Where are you going to put it?"
  • "Aren't your hands full enough?"
  • "I'd kill myself."
Other Things People Said When We Announced We Were Expecting:
  • "Congratulations!"
  • "That's so exciting."
  • "Good for you."
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Things People Said When They Found Out I Had a Miscarriage:
  • "Was it a planned pregnancy?"
  • "Sometimes, the father secretly doesn't want the baby and that's what happens."
  • "Well, CG is always jumping on her and kicking her in the stomach..."
  • "Don't think you've seen it all. There are a lot of other bad things you haven't even experienced."
Other Things People Said When They Found Out I Had a Miscarriage:
  • "I'm so sorry."
  • "My wife and I went through the same thing."
  • "Our prayers are with you.
  • (All of your comments.)

Thank you all. It really does mean a lot to me.

6 comments:

sete said...

...hmmmm....I feel like I may be in there somewhere, I think. If so it is considered a "bad, negative" comment. People sometimes feel so misunderstood. I do now.

Lisa said...

My jaw DROPPED when I read some of the things people said. Seriously, WTF?! I'm glad it wasn't all clueless...

sarah Furlough said...

Sometimes people don't realize that saying nothing at all is better than saying the wrong thing. I learned that when my sweet Logan lost his fight, sometimes people say the DUMBEST things. It is hard to hear those "wrong" things, and I am sorry that people can't even begin to understand what you've been through. I hope that just knowing people are reaching out to you brings you great comfort.

Duchess said...

I don't know if people really know what to say unless they have really experienced it. Losing a child is horrible. I have been there.

Our prayers are with you.

Sassy said...

Some people should never open their mouth.

I'm thinking of you.

Carrie said...

My bloglines has not been updating your feed, so I hadn't realized all that has been going on with you. I am very sorry about your loss.